Friday, July 29, 2011

I heart Feminist Men

As Byron Hurt writes, it is still the "F" word for most men.  Feminism.

Hurt's explanation of how he found his feminist identity explains a tale more and more men are identifying with.  Our culture doesn't promote feminism among men as a whole, but more and more spaces are encouraging healthy change.

Hurt recognizes the ties between feminism and anti-racist work and learns about how prevalent violence against women has become.  It's exciting to see that of course, when given the chance, many a man will identify as feminist... they just need the proper definition first.

Learn more:
The ManKind Project
NOMAS: National Organization for Men Against Sexism
The South Valley Male Involvement Project: In Albuquerque, helping men take responsibility for healthy choices

Leather Bear Tails: The “Real” Master Quiz

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Wednesday, July 27, 2011

Your V is fine. Don't be a Douche.

I am so glad when I hear about an upsetting ad campaign when it's already been mocked by Stephen Colbert.  Apparently Summer's Eve used pretty bad vagina puppeteering to relate to women about their products.  I think it's best to learn about such finds from Colbert Report.  Enjoy.

The Colbert ReportMon - Thurs 11:30pm / 10:30c
Vaginal Puppeteering vs. D**k Scrub
www.colbertnation.com
Colbert Report Full EpisodesPolitical Humor & Satire BlogVideo Archive

Monday, July 25, 2011

Meet Animatronic Penis & his RX only male vibrator

For those guys out there that don't think vibrators or sex toys are for them, the medical experts of Reflexonic want to prove you wrong- but by prescription only!  This sterile lookin' device is a new medically approved vibrator for men.  Plenty of guys love masturbation sleeves or vibrators, but our lovely American medicalized culture is offering the prescription for erectile function.

I do believe this is the most un-sexy representation of a boner I've ever seen.





Oh, and don't forget to look at the fine print:
Yup, only $300 each!

Tuesday, July 19, 2011

One Day Sale, y'all. This Saturday!



Saturday, July 23

20% Off Everything
12-10 pm in our store


Enjoy our one day sale online, too!   
Use coupon code 20today on Saturday, July 23 and get 20% off your order.  All orders over $100 always get free shipping, too.

You deserve more pleasure.

This Saturday, July 23 2-10:30 pm

Don't miss the biggest street festival in ABQ!

details at rt66central.com

Friday, July 8, 2011

Brickhouse Chronicles: Fat Positive Cheerleader Burnout: What Would Kermit Do?


I’m writing this blog under duress. My Beloved Wife (aka She Who Must Be Obeyed) told me that I needed to write a blog by this Friday because it would be “good for me” and that the writing process would help me stop beating myself up over feeling exhausted and overwhelmed by the running of the Brickhouse Betties group. She stated that writing a fat positive blog would be a wonderful experience in that it would help me become more emotionally centered. I reluctantly and grumpily agreed that she was right, whereupon I then proceeded to procrastinate all week long on the actual writing of the “therapy blog”.


My justification on why I wasn’t starting the blog usually veered around the area of “I don’t have the time for this” or the more self deprecating but emotionally honest reason of “I’m too scared and tired to keep putting myself out there”. So there I was two hours before my deadline and still steadfastly avoiding putting cyber pen to paper and thinking, “what the hell is wrong with me? Why can’t I get this done?”, when it hit me……..I didn’t want to focus on myself in an honest and self nurturing way.


Like many people, I’m in the throes of Fatty Cheerleader Burnout.

I define Fatty Cheerleader Burnout as that state of mental, emotional, and sometimes physical exhaustion that can come to someone when they get so caught up in the righteous fight for fat and body positive image awareness, that it becomes all too easy to avoid taking care of themselves. It can become a vicious cycle where the amount of self awareness needed to simply say “I need a break” isn’t there because the person needs a break in order to come to that conclusion. If it sounds familiar to many of you, it’s because it’s happens to everyone. I doesn’t just happen to fat positive cheerleaders, it happens to political activists, teachers, spiritual leaders (organizing pagans is like herding cats), social organizers, caregivers’, parents’ and supportive wives who make their spouses write blogs.

I’m in good company!!


So let’s say that you’ve identified that you are in the throes of Fatty Cheerleader Burnout, the next dilemma for a lot of people is what do you do now? In all honesty, I’m slowly making my way through the healing and renewal process but here are the personal goals that I have for combating FCB…. maybe they can help you too.

1) Give Myself Permission to Feel Whatever Emotions Wash Over Me Without the Guilt- Once I finally admit that I’m going through burnout, letting myself feel emotions such as grief, anger, and resignation is quite difficult for me to do without feeling very guilty. I’ve internalized the idea that these emotions somehow convey that I’m not a good leader because I’m not happy and strong all the time. Giving myself the affirming message that it’s okay to not be okay, is certainly a lot harder than it sounds, but I know that I can do it. Right now, I’m finding that saying “I’M NOT OKAY!!” out loud is having a surprisingly cathartic effect.

2) Unconditionally Accept the Reassurance and Loving Positivity that People Give to Me When I Reach Out for Help- Like with many people who experience Fatty Cheerleader Burnout, I tend to feel panic and surprise when people offer words of comfort and encouragement. I know that one of the main reasons for this is that I still feel like I’m whining when I share what I’m really going through. I know that part of the process of loving myself means that I need to accept the fact that other people love me too.

3) Don’t Take the Journey of Others Personally- As the founder of a fat positive group, it has become waaaaay to easy for me to internalize every pitfall that my Betties face as a personal failing on my part. Telling myself things such as “If I was a leader then she wouldn’t continue to engage in fat hating relationships” and so forth, has taken more of a toll on me than I realized and I am having to relearn the importance of letting people make their own mistakes. This is allowing me the emotional space to concentrate on my own.

While this has been a difficult blog to write, in end I’m glad that Beloved made me do, if only for the simple reason of being able to say “thank you” to everyone for all that you make the Brickhouse Betties. And a special thank you to my beautiful wife for all that you make me.


Brickhouse Betties Yahoo Group:

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Brickhouse_Betties/

Brickhouse Betties Facebook Group:

http://www.facebook.com/groups/brickhousebetties/

My Wife’s Amazing Leather Bear Blog

http://selfserved.blogspot.com/2011/07/leather-bear-tails-through-looking.html