Thursday, June 23, 2011

We aren't the only ones saying Slow the F* Down


‘Slow sex’ movement creates intimacy

You may have heard of slow food culture- opposing our fast food culture and the politics and power of that system.  Well, certainly I can appreciate this slow sex movement for parallel reasons.  The techniques in this article are quite simple, but powerful.

An easy way to improve your intimate connection may just involve breathing, eye contact and slowing the f**k down. 

Monday, June 13, 2011

Discomfort in (Gender) Uncertainty


Patricia Williams shares a sane and important analysis of our fear of uncertainty in identity.  In her blog in The Nation she points out, "Where, however, there is ambiguity, a switch gets flipped. If race or ethnicity is at all indeterminate, the first question is “What are you?” Where gender is not instantly discernible, anxiety or even rage ensues. We want our boxes, our neat cabinets of thought."

If we are capable of relating to each other as human and resist the assumptions in gender, race, ethnicity and other identities we live, we must recognize the assumptions and the limit of these 'boxes' every day.