Where is Your Line? About Consent.

It seems consent keeps coming up lately, and it's so exciting!

Why?  We live in a misogynistic rape culture where sexual harassment and sexual violence are way too common.  In said culture there are lots of us that of course still unapologetically want sex.  Consensual, beautiful, raw, tender, real, hot, naughty, vanilla and all-other-kinds of sex.  And consent needs to be a big ol' welcomed part of the deal.  Duh, right?

The consent discussion can open a can of worms about admitting what we want in a healthy, sex positive way.

This documentary and movement Where is Your Line? is bringing light, intrigue and intelligence to the discussion.  Get this film to your city, watch all the videos and bookmark the blog.  It's all awesome.

We're hosting a discussion on sex positive consent at Self Serve August 10 with educator Gabrielle from the Rape Crisis Center of NM.  Join us!

Leather Bear Tails: Pride vs. Entitlement

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Leather Bear Tails: Celebrate your slave day!

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Leather Bear Tails: Masters Empower Yourselves

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Leather Bear Tails: Understanding Consent

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Rape is About Consent.

Update!  Some progress has been made and the bill is apparently less offensive (though still problematic) after much outrage on the language.  Read more here.

Tell Congress rape has to do with consent, not bruises and broken bones.

A far-reaching anti-choice bill, introduced by Republican Chris Smith and supported by 173 members of the House, includes a provision that could redefine rape in the realm of federal funding for reproductive health care.

Right now, federal dollars can't be used for abortion except in cases of rape, incest, or when the woman's life is in danger. But the Smith bill would narrow that use to "cases of 'forcible' rape but not statutory or coerced rape."

As far too many women know, bruises and broken bones do not define rape - a lack of consent does. Please sign the petition today.

Self Serve is all having pleasurable, healthy sex because you're excited about it.  Read more about consent here.

Feminist Debate on Julian Assange's Sexual Assault Allegations

Watch feminist writers and activists Jaclyn Friedman and Naomi Wolf debate the sexual assault allegations on Julian Assange on a recent Democracy Now.   Their unfinished discussion highlights the confusion and lack of clarity on how to define consent for many.  Friedman rightfully suggests affirmative, continual consent is required for consensual sexual activity.    Check out her book Yes Means Yes! for a sex positive approach to a world without rape.

The political, reactionary context of Assange's situation must make any fair case even more challenging for the two women who've accused him.

Read more from Jaclyn Friedman about the realities of rape and why allegations should never be swept under the rug.